Some people believe that happiness is a state of mind. Others believe it’s a byproduct of success and material things. We have all heard the adage, “money can’t buy happiness.”
Our brains aren’t naturally designed to be happy. Instead, our brains have adapted to survive, defend ourselves, and keep us safe. Yes, we do have brief periods of joy and satisfaction, and delight. But many people are plagued with persistent bad feelings – they’re just “blah” all the time.
How can we increase the amount of pleasure in our life? It takes practice to develop a lifelong smile. We must return to square one in some respects. It won’t happen right away, but here are the top 20 daily habits that will help you discover the secrets of happiness.
Focus on the positive.
To be happy for a long period of time, you must teach your brain to think positively. Spend few minutes looking for good aspects of your life every day. Your brain will begin performing this automatically if you repeat it three times a day for 45 days.
Choose a good affirmation for the day — something you’ll tell yourself, such as “Today is lovely” or “I am grateful for all I have.” Take a minute to try and look at things through a more positive lens if things go wrong. Recognizing the silver linings in life is never an underestimate.
Celebrate little victories.
Life is made up of both ups and downs, yet there are many little victories that go unnoticed in between. Take time to appreciate the small accomplishments.
Have you crossed off everything on your to-do list that you’ve been putting off? Yay! Finally, did you clear out a thousand emails that had been cluttering up your inbox? Woohoo! Take pleasure in these minor victories. They add up over time!
Find your work-life balance.
Work consumes a substantial amount of our time, but it shouldn’t be the only thing we do. It’s critical to enjoy activities outside of work. Do you have a pastime? Are you spending time with friends and family? Is there anything you can do to improve your health? Creating balance in your life will help reduce stress and provide alternative ways to relax.
Mindfulness mediation involves focusing your attention and awareness on the present moment. It’s about being non-critical and accepting how you’re feeling. Being present, aware, and curious is what mindfulness entails. Acceptance of our current circumstances decreases stress while also allowing us to see things for what they are. We can discover serenity and affirmation in ourselves and the world around us.
Artists may be seen as sad and melancholy, but research suggests that engaging in creative activities on a regular basis makes you happier. Those who spend time dreaming up new things and creating are more enthusiastic and inclined to experience long-term happiness and well-being. Writing, painting, drawing, and musical performance are all examples of creative activities.
Many of us pursue perfection – we want to strive for our greatest. To be genuinely happy, you must embrace the imperfection that is a part of life. It’s impossible to achieve perfection, and attempting to do so is fruitless. We’ll always end up disappointed. Accept that life is messy and see the beauty and elegance in its flaws.
Do what you love.
It’s difficult to be joyful if you despise your profession. Even if it means paying the bills, don’t squander the finest years of your life in a joyless job. What are you interested in? What do you truly love? Concentrate on developing a career in an area that stimulates you and ensures high levels of fulfillment. Your happiness level will increase dramatically.
Money isn’t everything, but it’s tempting to believe that the more money you have, the happier you’ll be. However, it’s how you spend the money that makes you happier. The key is to make good judgments. Spending money on activities like travel, dining out, and concerts might make us happy because we are bringing those experiences together with the people we love.
Live in the moment.
Our thoughts and emotions are often consumed with the past or the future. What you’re going through right now is real; what you’re experiencing right now is reality. We may wish to get away from our current situation at times. But when we remain in the present, we are fully absorbed in our lives. You’ll begin to value your life more when you live in the moment.
Consider how you may cultivate daily gratitude. Being grateful for all you have and expressing your thanks will make you both happier and more satisfied. Gratitude is being thankful & relishing for what you already possess. Gifts can be physical or intangible, but they can also include experiences. You’ll realize that there is far more good in life than you knew when you began to cultivate gratitude.
Be generous with your time and money. Make a difference in the lives of others by donating to charity. Give to those you care about and love. People who give back have a sense of selflessness and humanitarianism, which leads them to have better health.
It’s difficult to feel pleased when you’re bored or dissatisfied with your life. One aspect of happiness is feeling intrigued, interested, and maybe surprised by life. So surprise yourself by setting goals that are outside of your comfort zone. Put yourself in new or unusual circumstances. Make goals for yourself and strive to meet them. Remember to have fun along the way.
Listen to and engage with music.
Listening to music makes us feel better. Listening to music excerts dopamine in our brains, a neurochemical associated with pleasure and reward. Those who participate in dance or attend concerts report high levels of happiness and well-being.
You do you.
The easiest and most effective thing you can do to increase your happiness is to be yourself. That implies not relying on the approval of others but rather accepting yourself for who you are. Invest some time getting to know yourself. What makes you tick? What do you believe in? Who are you, on the inside? Look for methods to embrace your uniqueness.
Build meaningful relationships.
Happiness, love, friendship, and community are all linked. Humans have an essential need to interact and connect with others. We naturally look for our tribe—the individuals who will stand by us, understand us, and be there for us through good times and bad. When we are lonely or disconnected from other people, we are unhappy. We’re more likely to be happy and satisfied with our lives when we feel supported by others.
Nothing compares to you.
Stop comparing yourself to others around you. Most importantly, stop weighing yourself against all of the other items out there. Social media has a way of convincing us that everyone else has it better than us. How regularly does reading through your newsfeed make you feel bad? Allowing envy and anger to grow inside us takes away our ability to appreciate what we do have.
Constant concern and worry make you anxious, flooded with negative, spiraling thoughts. Worrying occupies your attention and makes you nervous and apprehensive about things over which you have no control. We sometimes believe that if we worry enough, bad things will not happen to us. However, the fact is that when you’re consumed by anxiety, you can’t be truly happy.
Hang out with happy people.
Do you remember the last time you were around a sad person and ended up depressed? Moods are contagious. It turns out that emotions and behaviors may be shared among people, and the more we interact with one another, the closer our emotions and actions become. Surrounding yourself with individuals who are cheerful may help you live a happier life.
Spend time in nature.
According to certain experts, today’s ultra-connected generation may be suffering from a nature deficit syndrome. Studies have shown that when we spend more time in nature and the more engaged we are with the natural world around us, the happier we become. Maintaining a positive mental state also relies on our connection to nature.
Reminisce over happy memories.
Why are we attracted to vintage things? Perhaps it’s because nostalgia makes us happy. Nostalgic sentiments, or thoughts about our past, might help us reconnect with feelings of love and a sense of wonder and fulfillment. Our past influences who we are and what we’re about. We can improve our self-assurance and feel more connected to those around us if we take time to remember the good times from our past.
Happiness is not something that just happens to us. We create our own happiness and well-being. By being mindful of the present, we can find ways to be happy right now at this very moment. With a little effort and practice, you too will be able to live a happier life!